By Wendy Ford
Deception: The act of making someone believe something that is not true: the act of deceiving someone. An act or statement intended to make people believe something that is not true.
artifice, cheating, cozenage, craft, craftiness, crookedness,crookery, cunning, cunningness, deceitfulness, deceit,deceptiveness, dishonesty, dissembling, dissimulation, doubledealing, dupery, duplicity, fakery, foxiness, fraud, guile, guilefulness, wiliness
artlessness, forthrightness, good faith, guilelessness, ingenuousness, sincerity
Synonym Discussion of DECEPTION
DECEPTION, FRAUD, DOUBLE-DEALING, SUBTERFUGE, TRICKERY mean the acts or practices of one who deliberately deceives. DECEPTION may or may not imply blameworthiness, since it may suggest cheating or merely tactical resource <magicians are masters of deception>. FRAUD always implies guilt and often criminality in act or practice <indicted for fraud>. DOUBLE-DEALING suggests treachery or at least action contrary to a professed attitude <a go-between suspected of double-dealing>. SUBTERFUGE suggests the adoption of a stratagem or the telling of a lie in order to escape guilt or to gain an end <obtained the papers by subterfuge>. TRICKERY implies ingenious acts intended to dupe or cheat <resorted to trickery to gain their ends>. 1
Just look anywhere and deception can be found. This is an introductory cursory exploration of deception, a topic this writer continues to struggle with on a daily basis.
Advertisers use it every day to entice, lure, persuade, and convince us we really need whatever they are selling. Suddenly we need something we hadn’t known existed. Take, for example, Real Estate. It looks great on the outside. Go inside and it might still look great, or not. Have an inspection done and the truth comes out; floor joists rotting, roof leaks, wiring needs to be replaced, etc. How about used car dealerships, again notorious for using deception to lure the unsuspecting, enticing them into making purchases they may later regret.
We all deal with deception on a daily basis. Many of us consider our abode a sanctuary from the outside world; a safe haven where we are no longer bombarded from all directions with deceptive people and situations. As long as one does not turn on a television, radio or link up with the internet the illusion of sanctuary is possible, however deception even permeates here.
The ultimate deception is inescapable. While it can be ignored, one cannot turn it off, tune it out or otherwise escape it. It is the deception we ourselves have conjured up about or with ourselves.
You don’t think you practice deception or deceive yourself? You are one hundred percent honest and genuine with yourself and others one hundred percent of the time? Right there is a great example of a deception: you have deceived yourself into thinking you are the perfected human, which in itself is a deception because humans are inherently flawed.
If you do not practice deception consciously or subconsciously it means you are totally frontal and transparent in every communication and interaction at all times with others and with yourself. You have never responded “nice to meet you” when you were really thinking “what a loser”. You have never offered “I think you should wear something else” when asked “do I look OK in this”? You have never consoled a grieving friend or child with “it will be OK” when you can’t know that to be true. You have never said “that’s OK” when an inattentive person has just run into the back of your heel with their shopping cart. You have never said “it’s OK” (whatever it is) when you are actually quite ticked off at another’s or your inconsiderate action or behavior.
Human beings just aren’t that great at being transparent and truthful, especially with themselves. Oh I will do that later, when the truth is I really don’t want to do or deal with that at all. One little cookie won’t hurt anything. Who hasn’t said that at least once? I can stop this behavior (whatever it is) whenever I want to, when the truth is there is a part of me that has no intention of addressing the issue or doesn’t really care or want to stop or change a behavior.
One of the most common deceptions is “everything is fine, there is nothing wrong”. To compound the issue we often have actually convinced ourselves that there is nothing wrong in spite of evidence and facts to the contrary.
What a deception!
Learning how and when to deceive is perhaps seeded when we first learn from modern society people don’t really want to know how we are when they greet us with “how are you?” We quickly learn to just say “fine thanks and you?” even though we ourselves are guilty of not really wanting to know how they are either.
If we ever do run into that rare individual who truly does want to know how we are it can sometimes be difficult to take a step back to ask ourselves how AM I? What’s really going on? How can we proffer a genuine response when we don’t know the answers? How do we discover the answers?
It takes introspection. It takes moments of silence. It takes formulating the intent to want to know what’s really going on, how we are truly responding, what we are actually feeling.
Discovering and identifying a deception requires conscious action. One must first be willing to be open to the possibility of the existence of a deception. An intent to want to become aware of a deception in order to discover or uncover the truth in a situation/experience must be fashioned and stated. Once open to the possibility attention must be focused in that direction, bringing a conscious awareness to it. Awareness must then be brought to the senses—what is the physical vehicle’s dashboard displaying? What is the emotional response to the input of the senses?
All of this sounds like a lot of work. It is. It sounds like it takes time. It does. It takes repeated application and practice to be able to uncover a deception. It requires courage to delve into for having to admit making an error can be tough. It might bring up emotions of guilt, shame, anger or the most important emotion of all: fear. It might require a change to be made which might be uncomfortable and painful. It takes having the desire to want to know, to discover, to uncover; to want to function within and with truth instead of illusions, delusions and deceptions.
When we figure out the “what” there is still delving into the why and how. Very few of us have given ourselves the gift of psychological counseling from a PHD level psychologist or been blessed with finding our Spiritual Teacher to assist in learning how to participate in self-exploration.
Time. Work. Desire. Work. Time. Courage. Work. Time. Intent. Work. Willingness. Time. Attention. Work. Awareness. Time. Work. It is an ongoing and never ending process.
Deception. It is pervasive. It is a fact in our lives. While it will not go away in the outside mundane world it is be possible to identify through careful observation and discernment. Deception within our personal interior world is something we can discover and identify. It is possible to discover the deceptions within ourselves and take steps to shine the Light of Truth within our personal interior world. Although not easy or comfortable with time and work, through the repeated application of intent, will, desire, attention and conscious action it is possible to function in the Light and not the Darkness.
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