I Lie Daily

Halloween PumpkinI LIE DAILY
by Wendy Ford

What? Who? Me? Lie? That’s such an ugly word. Well if I call it falsehood that’s not as offensive to my delicate ego and sense of righteousness. Let’s see what Roget’s Thesaurus has to say: 1

[Nouns] falsehood, falseness; falsity, falsification; deception; untruth; guile; lying; misrepresentation; mendacity, perjury, false swearing; forgery, invention, fabrication; subreption; covin.

perversion of truth, suppression of truth; suppressio veri; perversion, distortion, false coloring; exaggeration; prevarication, equivocation, shuffling, fencing, evasion, fraud; suggestio falsi (lie); mystification (concealment); simulation (imitation); dissimulation, dissembling; decit; blague.

sham; pretense, pretending, malingering.

lip homage, lip service; mouth honor; hollowness; mere show, mere outside; duplicity, double dealing, insincerity, hypocrisy, cant, humbug; jesuitism, jesuitry; pharisaism; Machiavelism, “organized hypocrisy’; crocodile tears, mealy-mouthedness, quackery; charlatanism, charlatanry; gammon; bun-kum, bumcombe, flam; bam, flimflam, cajolery, flattery; Judas kiss; perfidy (bad faith [more]; il volto sciotlo i pensieri stretti. unfairness (dishonesty); artfulness (cunning); misstatement (error).

Wow. None of these sound very “nice” either. It seems no matter how fancy the word or phrase it all can be summed up in one word: lie.

Fans of the American television series House will remember well the acerbic main character Dr. Gregory House played by actor Hugh Laurie. One of the Houseisms2that struck home was his advice to “remember, everyone lies”. When I first heard that I was taken aback. What does he mean “everyone lies”? Of course then I failed to take it any further and my piqued interest was dismissed and disappeared.

Several years later Dr. Strickler brought up the topic in class.  He quoted Dr. House: “remember, everyone lies”. There was that statement again. There was that statement again.

As his lecture went on it was clear the statement was accurate. EVERYONE LIES, in other words, everyone has set up trip wires in the element of their personality to protect themselves from being exposed to themselves. Everyday. In multiple moments throughout a day. The key is we aren’t always consciously aware we are lying.

Try this to sensitize yourself to recognize lies: over the next several days try to be aware of and listen for lies. If it makes you feel better call it by any of the synonyms from Roget’s Thesaurus. Listen for the clues that someone is exaggerating or trying not to hurt someone’s feelings or making an excuse for an action or lack of action. These are all forms of lies. You can be assured you are more likely to spot the lie of another more easily than your own. Once you get the hang of it try listening for your own lies. Lies others tell are the easiest to catch. The lies we tell ourselves are much more subtle (and begs the question, “Who are we hiding from and Why?”) and require a greater self-awareness to catch. This is probably because some of them have been a part of our operating system for so long we have come to see and hear (and think we KNOW while still begging the question, “Who are we hiding from and Why are we creating he lie?”) them to be truths, instead of contrivances.

Once you are more aware you might have questions. What is the difference between a lie and hedging on an answer, deftly evading a point or situation, embellishing on a story or experience, justifying an action or belief to others or oneself? Nothing. Those are all more fancy words for ‘convenient contrivance’ by any other any other name, a LIE.

Lie. That seems like such a harsh word. We’ve been taught from the beginning to lie is wrong. We learn that from parents, teachers, religions, fables, fairy tales, cartoons, even from the rules and laws enacted governing the various aspects of our lives. The moral imperative of not lying is strong and deeply ingrained.

Yet while we are taught lying is wrong we all lie from the beginning too. Any parent can tell you how early on a child learns to deny having done or taken something. The shaking of the head “no” when asked if they took a cookie even when holding the cookie in the hand or crumbs on the mouth are evidence to the contrary.

We need to come to grips with the fact that indeed we lie. Does that mean every utterance out of our mouths needs to be the absolute truth at all times? I don’t believe so. It does mean we need to be more aware of our now and to be auditing our thoughts prior to verbalization so we are at least aware we are lying and not to the extent politicians have taken this audit.

The point isn’t that we lie, it’s that we need to be more consciously aware of the five basic questions governing any situation: what, where, when, why and who. The lists under each category can be endless.

What are we lying about? Something we did/didn’t do or are planning on doing? Something we did/didn’t say? Our accomplishments, failures, the dreaded dog ate my homework excuse?

Where are we lying? At work, home, school, social activities, in the privacy of our own thoughts and musings and rationalizations?

When are we lying? In which situations are we most likely to lie? When is that trigger most likely to be tripped?

Why are we lying? Is it so we don’t hurt someone’s feelings? Is it that telling the absolute truth to someone about something could do harm or be detrimental to them? Is it to save face so we don’t look bad in front of someone or aren’t embarrassed about being in error about an interpretation, belief, action/inaction, decision? Is it just easier than bothering to seek and investigate to discover a truth? Isn’t it in fact simpler to just be honest?

Who are we lying to and why? This could be the most important question of all. Catching the lies we tell to others is not that difficult to do once we become aware and really think before we speak and listen to what comes out of our mouth.

WE NEED TO KNOW OURSELVES.

Catching the lies we tell ourselves is more nuanced because our egos and personalities have suavely and deftly disguised them to appear to be our truths. The ego doesn’t like to be called out and for most of our lives has been erroneously allowed to be in charge and run things fooling us into thinking “I am in charge” when in fact it is the ego pulling the strings leaving the impression it is “I” in action.

This is the point at which it requires intestinal fortitude and courage to take an honest look at ourselves; to stand naked in front of ourselves for full self-conscious exposure and study. Egos don’t like that. They do not like to be exposed. They prefer to operate in stealth behind the scenes as the Wizard does in The Wizard of OZ. “Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain” pulling the strings and running the show without our self-conscious input and self-monitoring. This is far too large and rich of a topic to be explored in this article.

Once we are able to take an honest look with self-conscious full awareness and listen for the nuances it is easier to see and hear where we lie to ourselves and about what. It isn’t an overnight process. It takes practice, contemplation, courage and endurance. It takes time. Doesn’t it takes a conscious willingness to find out and want to know the truth? The ego will always seek to redirect us and hide from exposure to the light of truth.

Let’s look at it from the angle of the exploration of a dark room. At first there doesn’t appear to be anything there. As the light of a flashlight is turned on it is apparent something is there and the wider the beam, the stronger the intensity the more is exposed out of the darkness for the eyes to see and ears to hear. There might even be cockroaches skittering for the shelter of the darkness. Those are the lies avoiding exposure needing to be exterminated by the purity of truth.

Once exposed by the light of self-disclosure your lies have a much better chance of being identified and reconciled.

Full exposure. Full disclosure. Truths inherent in the reality of any given experience. Seek it. Look for it. Listen for it. Be willing to want to know. Be willing to admit you have been in error in areas. Be willing to be open to discovery and growth. It is a never ending process. It is never complete and done and over.

It can be a life altering experience to realize ‘I lie daily.’
Wendy Ford

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  1. Roget’s Thesaurus http://www.thesaurus.com/roget/IV/544.html[]
  2. House Rules, Houseisms: Rules, Proverbs, Philosophy, Quotes: http://www.housemd-guide.com/characters/houserules.php[]
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Deception

By Wendy Ford

Deception: The act of making someone believe something that is not true: the act of deceiving someone. An act or statement intended to make people believe something that is not true.

Synonyms
artifice, cheating, cozenage, craft, craftiness, crookedness,crookery, cunning, cunningness, deceitfulness, deceit,deceptiveness, dishonesty, dissembling, dissimulation, doubledealing, dupery, duplicity, fakery, foxiness, fraud, guile, guilefulness, wiliness

Antonyms
artlessness, forthrightness, good faith, guilelessness, ingenuousness, sincerity

Synonym Discussion of DECEPTION
DECEPTION, FRAUD, DOUBLE-DEALING, SUBTERFUGE, TRICKERY mean the acts or practices of one who deliberately deceives. DECEPTION may or may not imply blameworthiness, since it may suggest cheating or merely tactical resource <magicians are masters of deception>. FRAUD always implies guilt and often criminality in act or practice <indicted for fraud>. DOUBLE-DEALING suggests treachery or at least action contrary to a professed attitude <a go-between suspected of double-dealing>. SUBTERFUGE suggests the adoption of a stratagem or the telling of a lie in order to escape guilt or to gain an end <obtained the papers by subterfuge>. TRICKERY implies ingenious acts intended to dupe or cheat <resorted to trickery to gain their ends>.1

Just look anywhere and deception can be found. This is an introductory cursory exploration of deception, a topic this writer continues to struggle with on a daily basis.

Advertisers use it every day to entice, lure, persuade, and convince us we really need whatever they are selling. Suddenly we need something we hadn’t known existed. Take, for example, Real Estate. It looks great on the outside. Go inside and it might still look great, or not. Have an inspection done and the truth comes out; floor joists rotting, roof leaks, wiring needs to be replaced, etc. How about used car dealerships, again notorious for using deception to lure the unsuspecting, enticing them into making purchases they may later regret.

We all deal with deception on a daily basis. Many of us consider our abode a sanctuary from the outside world; a safe haven where we are no longer bombarded from all directions with deceptive people and situations. As long as one does not turn on a television, radio or link up with the internet the illusion of sanctuary is possible, however deception even permeates here.
The ultimate deception is inescapable. While it can be ignored, one cannot turn it off, tune it out or otherwise escape it. It is the deception we ourselves have conjured up about or with ourselves.

You don’t think you practice deception or deceive yourself? You are one hundred percent honest and genuine with yourself and others one hundred percent of the time? Right there is a great example of a deception: you have deceived yourself into thinking you are the perfected human, which in itself is a deception because humans are inherently flawed.

If you do not practice deception consciously or subconsciously it means you are totally frontal and transparent in every communication and interaction at all times with others and with yourself. You have never responded “nice to meet you” when you were really thinking “what a loser”. You have never offered “I think you should wear something else” when asked “do I look OK in this”? You have never consoled a grieving friend or child with “it will be OK” when you can’t know that to be true. You have never said “that’s OK” when an inattentive person has just run into the back of your heel with their shopping cart. You have never said “it’s OK” (whatever it is) when you are actually quite ticked off at another’s or your inconsiderate action or behavior.

Human beings just aren’t that great at being transparent and truthful, especially with themselves. Oh I will do that later, when the truth is I really don’t want to do or deal with that at all. One little cookie won’t hurt anything. Who hasn’t said that at least once? I can stop this behavior (whatever it is) whenever I want to, when the truth is there is a part of me that has no intention of addressing the issue or doesn’t really care or want to stop or change a behavior.

One of the most common deceptions is “everything is fine, there is nothing wrong”. To compound the issue we often have actually convinced ourselves that there is nothing wrong in spite of evidence and facts to the contrary.
What a deception!

Learning how and when to deceive is perhaps seeded when we first learn from modern society people don’t really want to know how we are when they greet us with “how are you?” We quickly learn to just say “fine thanks and you?” even though we ourselves are guilty of not really wanting to know how they are either.

If we ever do run into that rare individual who truly does want to know how we are it can sometimes be difficult to take a step back to ask ourselves how AM I? What’s really going on? How can we proffer a genuine response when we don’t know the answers? How do we discover the answers?
It takes introspection. It takes moments of silence. It takes formulating the intent to want to know what’s really going on, how we are truly responding, what we are actually feeling.

Discovering and identifying a deception requires conscious action. One must first be willing to be open to the possibility of the existence of a deception. An intent to want to become aware of a deception in order to discover or uncover the truth in a situation/experience must be fashioned and stated. Once open to the possibility attention must be focused in that direction, bringing a conscious awareness to it. Awareness must then be brought to the senses—what is the physical vehicle’s dashboard displaying? What is the emotional response to the input of the senses?

All of this sounds like a lot of work. It is. It sounds like it takes time. It does. It takes repeated application and practice to be able to uncover a deception. It requires courage to delve into for having to admit making an error can be tough. It might bring up emotions of guilt, shame, anger or the most important emotion of all: fear. It might require a change to be made which might be uncomfortable and painful. It takes having the desire to want to know, to discover, to uncover; to want to function within and with truth instead of illusions, delusions and deceptions.

When we figure out the “what” there is still delving into the why and how. Very few of us have given ourselves the gift of psychological counseling from a PHD level psychologist or been blessed with finding our Spiritual Teacher to assist in learning how to participate in self-exploration.
Time. Work. Desire. Work. Time. Courage. Work. Time. Intent. Work. Willingness. Time. Attention. Work. Awareness. Time. Work. It is an ongoing and never ending process.

Deception. It is pervasive. It is a fact in our lives. While it will not go away in the outside mundane world it is be possible to identify through careful observation and discernment. Deception within our personal interior world is something we can discover and identify. It is possible to discover the deceptions within ourselves and take steps to shine the Light of Truth within our personal interior world. Although not easy or comfortable with time and work, through the repeated application of intent, will, desire, attention and conscious action it is possible to function in the Light and not the Darkness.

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  1. http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/deception[]
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The Ultimate Love Letter

by Wendy Ford

Before this article is misunderstood it needs to be clarified it was written from an extremely narrow point of focus. It should not be construed this writer is ignorant of the crucial role relationships, interactions and genuine communication with “others” plays. But some are so narrowly focused on themselves they cannot, or do not, take into consideration any but themselves. It is equally true there are some who are so focused on others they fail to take the steps of looking inward. This article focuses on the inward journey and introspection required that can lead to being able to genuinely communicate with the many layers of ourselves that in turn will assist in our quest for genuine communication with and love of others.

Another Valentine’s Day has come and gone. Bet you forgot to write a love letter to the most important person of all: YOU. Sounds like the epitome of egocentricity, yet when a moment is taken to really think about it, You are all you have. Your body with its organs, your container, is merely a physical vehicle through which the Life Power expresses and experiences itself as You. It can be stunning, even overwhelming, to think about in those terms. To consciously become aware, to come to know this, can take years.

What more appropriate time to write a love letter to the expression of You than on the day when the Universe’s heart takes a beat? That’s what Valentine’s Day really is. Historically it has been linked to the day to express friendship. (http://grove.ufl.edu/~leo/val.html)

Thanks to the sophistry-based philosophical foundation of business in the United States, Valentine’s Day has become imbued with an economically based significance and import of epic proportions. The commercial world wants one to believe that extreme guilt and anxiety should be experienced if one doesn’t go into debt over the day; unless expensive jewelry, candy, cards, dinner and flowers are lavished upon your love you will be thought to be a loser. The true meaning of the day has long since been lost to modern society.

Back to that love letter. You are comprised of many layers and levels, and each needs to be able to have open and unobstructed communication with the others. Sometimes we are aware of a communication but most of it takes place on the sub conscious level. It takes training and work to become consciously aware of the subtle communications.

Every one of us has had the experience of having an argument or discussion apparently with oneself. That is usually indicative of one part of the psyche attempting to communicate and come to an agreement with another. Only in the most highly trained individuals is it ever a direct communication with Soul, even more rarely with Spirit and it IS NEVER GOD TALKING TO YOU. Most commonly one’s attention is drawn to times when a decision needed to be made about some action or comment. The “discussion” might have gone something like this:

“I really don’t want to do that. But it’s the right thing to do. I know but I really don’t want to do that because I might end up looking like a fool. Would you rather look the fool or take a chance and have something great come of it? I don’t know. If I do it then I have to really commit to it (whatever “it” is). Yes, and by committing to it there will be a cost. I know, but I’m not sure if I’m willing to put myself out a limb like that. Why not? Because I did something like that when I was in second grade and ended up being really humiliated and I don’t ever want that to happen again. Oh, that’s right. Guess you are correct. That felt awful and we don’t want to go through that again. Never mind.”

This self-talk is what Dr. Strickler calls “the Babbler”, that never ceasing internal voice that yammers on and on seemingly without rest about the most inane of subjects, asking questions, answering questions, sometimes even contradicting itself, providing a running commentary about the most trivial of things, giving advice whether solicited or not, jumping from topic to topic without thought or contemplation. Training and practice in immersing oneself into the flow of the Meditation of the Source will result in the silencing of the Babbler enabling the clearing of the communication lines between You and the various areas of your psyche.

Writing a love letter to yourself can kick start the process. Use a writing instrument and a physical piece of paper, not a computer keyboard. The physical act of putting words on paper establishes a connection and starts the communication flowing. Ignore the quality of the handwriting. Write your thoughts down. Don’t try to edit as you go that will interrupt the flow between mind and paper. No one else should ever see this letter; it is for your eyes only.

Now you sit with a blank piece of paper and a writing instrument in hand thoughtfully pondering the task. If you’ve never done this sort of thing before you might just be fidgeting and staring at a blank piece of paper thinking, “where do I start? This seems pretty silly, what if I look like a fool?” Is there anyone who can honestly say they have NEVER looked or felt silly or like a fool? This is just you and You communicating. If you can’t talk to You then there is really a major problem.

Start out with whatever salutation you wish. Sit quietly for a moment. Put down several topic areas such as What I like about Us, The Things I Love about Us, We like spending time together because… No negative headers. As ideas occur to you put them under some kind of category. The term “Us” was used intentionally. There are many parts and levels of YOU. You are made up of many identities, i.e. Mother, Wife, Sister, Daughter, Father, Husband, Brother, Son. Add to the mix all the functions you perform, i.e. chauffeur, housekeeper, cook, accountant, coach, tutor, referee, healer, advisor, then add in any professional or job related titles or descriptions and You are a conglomerate. You are your own corporation.

Then there are the levels from which You operate: the physical expression of You operating within the physical container of your body, and the Etheric, Astral, Soul and Spirit levels of You each with their own levels. With all the identities, functions and descriptions all operating from simultaneous levels, you are your own AT&T. And this is only on the internal side. Now add to this all the types of communication and input being fed into your circuit boards from the outside, from your physical senses. Is it any wonder we all suffer from internal communication breakdown of unanswered ring tones, busy signals, interrupted or dropped calls, crossed wires or short circuits from time to time?

The physical act of sitting still and putting pen to paper quiets and turns down our attention to much of the internal and external cacophony. Most of us have been trained from early on that it is not a good thing to be boastful or brag about ourselves. So writing a love letter to You may seem quite daunting, egotistical or even wrong. It is not being a braggart or boastful when an inward search is being conducted. So many of us have such a difficult time acknowledging even to ourselves what we are really good at or areas where we shine.

Self-deprecation has been instilled from our earliest memories. To act with modesty and humbleness are virtues to be sure when interacting with others socially. Few of us have ever been taught how to go about conducting our genuine personal and inner inventory. Without an inward looking and searching, it is impossible to discover who we really are. This inner inventory should be a continual process of discovery leading to identification of strengths as well as weaknesses.

It is from within this inner sanctum of You that you develop the courage to first acknowledge that there are some things you may have been or are wrong or mistaken about and then, through further work, discover they resulted from an erroneous perspective or error of interpretation. It is only from within your inner Fortress of Solitude that you will uncover the errors, discover the truths and develop the courage to acknowledge even to yourself, “I was wrong” or “I may have been wrong about that. In light of new information I may need to rethink my position or opinion of belief.”

If attempting to put thoughts into words on paper becomes too frustrating just walk away and come back later. Your subconscious has been given the task and is already working on it. When you come back, set a timer for 5 minutes. Your ego can generally handle short periods of contemplation, reflection and examination more easily than an open-ended amount of time. This will tend to head off the ego’s response of “oh my gosh this is going to take forever and I really don’t want to be doing this and I might get called out or found out and I really don’t want You to find out the truth about an illusion or erroneous belief or bias because then I might have to change and I am perfectly happy being in charge of You and dictating how You think and feel and if You really knew how things are I might have to relinquish some of my control to You and then where would I be?” Don’t worry about spelling or editing, don’t worry about grammar or syntax or even if it is making complete sense. Just let it flow onto the paper. It might be surprising what comes out.

When you are done, read it out loud. Putting physical vocalizations to your words is valuable. We’ve all had the experience of thinking something in our head then saying it out loud realizing “it sure didn’t sound like that in my head. That isn’t what I mean to say at all.” Your letter will have the same effect.

Be prepared for the unexpected. Don’t be too surprised if the writing triggers some strong emotional responses. Pockets of emotions, both positive and negative can be hidden and lie festering under the surface until we poke them a bit and shine the light of the quest or truth upon them. Don’t shy away or look away. Allow yourself to acknowledge, face and examine those emotions. Give those emotions the chance to express themselves. Feel them, experience them, and then let go of them with a silent thanks to You for bringing them to your attention.

Have an extra sheet of paper nearby to jot down questions or topics you want to further look in to or research. Your writing might trigger questions or areas you may need to address with friends or family members. If you are giving yourself the gift of self exploration through the aide of a doctoral level psychologist trained in EMDR techniques this can serve as a source for signposts the two of you may need to address. http://www.emdr.com/

It is important to date your letter and keep it secreted away to be pulled out on occasion. Pull it out every year and re read it, read it again out loud. As the letters grow in number over the years notice your growth and development. If you don’t see any changes ask “why not?”

Your Love Letter to You can serve as a homing beacon for your Soul. Your Soul is continually attempting to make the contact with You, the differentiated portion of Itself. The Soul has lessons it needs to learn and purposes that need to be served. The only way the Soul can learn, resolve, grow and evolve is through physical experience. Your letter can serve as a bridge, as an opening through which the vertical communication of the Soul can be “heard” or received by its lower vehicle of expression, You.

Through the writing of your Love Letter you can start your journey and process in opening the lines of communication with the many other levels of You. We all know the multitude and complexity of problems mundane miscommunications can cause. The quality and clarity of our internal communications is even more critical.

So give it a go. See what you experience when you write the Ultimate Love Letter. – Wendy Ford

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Spiritual Climate Newsletter DECEMBER 2007 ~ part 4 ~ LITTLE BIT of THIS N’ THAT by Wendy Ford

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A LITTLE BIT OF THIS N’ THAT

By Wendy Ford

It seems Thanksgiving never even happened. It seems to have been ignored. There wasn’t any build up to it leading to the anticipation as in years past. Personally, disappointment is a term never before associated nor experienced with Thanksgiving Day. The true highlight of Thanksgiving was that my husband was home and off the road for two whole weeks. That was a personal Thanksgiving that lasted for two weeks and was our cherished blessing. Normally the weeks leading up to Thanksgiving are filled with the anticipation and preparation for the day. This year there was something distinctly different about it but figuring out the whys may take some time.

Part of it must have to do with the fact that the Christmas displays have been in the stores since before Halloween. Finding Thanksgiving paper plates was a failure this year. A full two weeks before Thanksgiving there were none to be found in the local grocery as all the Christmas, Chanukah and New Years items were already on the displays and shelves. When a store clerk was asked where they might have the Thanksgiving items the reply came with a shake of her head, “I guess they just skipped Thanksgiving this year.” Plates with bunches of purple grapes on them were substituted with at least the theme of harvest. The search for napkins to match was quickly abandoned and instead a solid color from the birthday aisle was chosen. It just seemed Thanksgiving never even happened.

It’s starting to feel like Christmas has “already been”, too. One can’t pick up a magazine, look in a store window, open e-mails, or turn on the radio or TV without being assaulted by ads and sales.

Could be just my perception of time being so compressed right now but it just seems particularly this year the merchants have really been pushing and pushing very, very hard the sales earlier than usual. It seems paradoxical that at a time when many families are so stretched financially that they face the very real threat of home foreclosure the merchants seem to be more in your face this year than ever.

“Buy! Buy! Buy!” the ads flash, the signs proclaim and actors manically shout and pitch. It is the same every year: the perception that the more things that are given and the more money that is spent equate with how much you care or love someone. It just appears to be brighter, louder and more offensive this year.

This theme is not unique to Christmas. There was a program on the local NPR station on which a minister and a rabbi were speaking of the meaning of the two Holy Days seasons of Christmas and Chanukah. Evidently the concern about commercialization has been going on since the 1700’s.

Joy and Beauty and Love are all reflective in the spirit of Christmas and the emotions can, indeed be infective. There is also a flip side to all of this, for the Law of Polarity dictates there be a negative to balance the positive even at this time of year. For many, this time of year is very introspective and private, a time of inner searching and reflection.

Everyone seems to be frantically running hither in a dither. Evidently the idea is to search for the perfect gift for just about anyone they have ever come in contact with from loved ones to the door man to the letter carrier to the office cleaning staff to the vet to the baseball coach to the teacher to, well, you get the idea. Showing appreciation by writing a note is evidently unacceptable. Surely the work and service of others around you is only to be acknowledged on one very specific day of the year and there are even etiquette rules that govern this. Everyone is searching. What is everyone really searching for?

Could it be that at this time of year, when the darkest night of the year comes on December 21st that we are seeking to fill and soothe that aching void deep within us that is hurting in response to our separation from our connection with our Source?

Are we searching through all the frivolity, festivities, and frantic rushing about to fill that void and soothe the ache? Are we so influenced by the Sophistry based philosophy of consumerism that we have come to truly believe the busier we are and the more money we spend the happier we must be? Oh, and if we go to a midnight religious service on December 24th we will be spiritually medicated and soothed as well.

Could it be that those are the very activities that continue to foster the separation? If we were to instead quiet ourselves enough to turn our eyes, ears and attention inward could we experience the opposite effect? Might we be able to begin to bridge the gap between “us” and our Source? Yes. Dr. Strickler has taught us that Meditation is the key. True meditation is not contemplation or visualization or deep breathing or contemplating our navel while standing on one leg. We don’t have to “do” or “go” anywhere. True meditation is merely sitting alone in a quiet place for twenty minutes a day, allowing one’s mind to quiet enabling the participation in the greatest meditation of all: the Meditation of the Source.

The Meditation of the Source is why any thing and any one exists in the first place: we and everything in manifestation are being “thought” into existence. The present tense has been intentionally used because every moment of the “now” is the result of that meditation. Creation didn’t stop. It is an ongoing process that is the result of that Meditation. Should the Source cease meditating…..poof. No more Manifestation.

As the word meditation has been mistyped to “mediation” more than once in the writing of this article it has brought my attention to the two words. It is striking to realize that Meditation is a form of mediation. Also, it is merely one letter, the letter “T”, the Hebrew letter Tau, that makes the distinction between the two words. Key 21 in the Tarot is “The World”. Interesting: Mediation between Manifestation and the Source by participating in Its Meditation.

“Give! Give! Give!” flash, the signs proclaim and actors manically shout and pitch. The more we give the better must we feel, and the better we feel the more alive we are and the more we love. Right? Not necessarily.

In the Western world we are taught from childhood that it is better to give than to receive. What is left out is the part about that the giving needs to be genuine, and given from the heart out of Love. Most of us don’t know ourselves well enough to have a genuine connection with our own hearts in order to give out of Love.

Most of us have never been taught that unless we first come to know ourselves it is impossible to truly give to others.

Knowing ourselves is the hardest and most painful thing any of us will ever have to learn or discover, for to truly know ourselves is to be willing to know and accept every facet of our being: the good, the bad, and the ugly facets. Once we start that process of learning to accept every facet of ourselves we begin to truly love ourselves. Until we reach a point where we have at least SOME love of self the “giving to others” is merely an illusion we have concocted, a salve that soothes our own pain, an act that gives us the feeling of having filled our own emptiness and blinds us to the looking inward. Once again we if we look inward and with honesty we discover we are merely medicating ourselves with illusions and delusions.

"Then spake Jesus again unto them, saying, I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life.." (John 8:12 ~ KJV) and notice it says I AM the LIGHT not ‘Light Bearer’. Through his life became manifest that Christ Consciousness was anchored and made available in earth plane.

There is something quite magical about the first light of Christmas Morning, a tradition of observance taught to me by Rev. Strickler. If you can be in a position to actually see that first flash from the sun as it comes up over the horizon or from behind the dip in the mountains or hills or just over top of the city buildings there is an indescribable momentary glimpse of and feeling of connectedness. Because we are limited by the concepts of time and space it seems to only last for that flash but it can be your connection and fuel, your lifeline, for the upcoming year. Your Soul knows that connection and for the physical vehicle to experience even the briefest of connections is the true gift of Christmas.

So this Christmas don’t forget to give something to yourself. Take that leap and dare to really look in the mirror and find out something about yourself. This is a personal gift you don’t have to share with anyone. Give yourself twenty minutes a day to sit and be quiet and to participate in the Meditation of the Source, your Source. Go outside and find that ‘First Light’ on Christmas Morning. This could be your greatest gift of all for it can sustain you through the coming year.

May the Lord of Life empower you to grab hold and use Its Will as It bestows Its many blessings upon you: the Courage to honestly look deep within yourself; the Compassion to accept yourself in all your complicated facets; Grace in the application of forgiveness with yourself for your faults and failings; the Patience to persevere in your quest to know yourself for it is a lifelong process; the ability to Laugh at yourself as you stumble and err for that is just a part of the human condition, imperfection. You don’t need to grovel and beg for all these are already yours. Just let the Light in.

Be Open to Discover that which is True and Genuine,

Wendy Ford

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Spiritual Climate Newsletter OCTOBER 2007 ~ part 3 ~ PLEASE, CAN ANYONE EXPLAIN THIS TO ME?  by Wendy Ford

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Please, Can Anyone Explain This To Me?

By Wendy Ford

Many out there are wiser than I. Many have much higher degrees of education than I. Many have long careers in the political arena and federal bureaucracy, certainly arenas of bafflement to me. Others have spent their careers in policy making for the healthcare field succeeding in turning it into an actual “industry”. Policy making and attempting to control spending is admirable and necessary but at the same time perplexing.

Increasingly I find myself feeling as if I am standing under an overpass in the middle of a four-lane highway furiously waving a red flag and pleading, “Excuse me. Pardon me. Could someone help me, please?” All the while everyone is speeding on by, in all four directions, pens poised, in a whoosh of hot air as they go rushing about their business of attempting to stem the tides of flowing funds. The only goal of which all are in apparent agreement is that spending needs to be controlled. Maybe someone out there can explain some of this to me, for after almost 34 years in the healthcare field I am evidently missing some crucial point of understanding.

These are only a few of my endless questions and I am positive anyone working in or dealing with our health care system can add to these. Not one of us is immune to the state that our health care system is in.

Why is it that Medicare and insurance companies will pay hundreds of thousands of dollars to treat a bedsore (decuitus) after it has formed but not pay for the alternating pressure air mattress that would have prevented the formation of the wound in the first place? [That’s a “luxury comfort item”.] If Medicare would pay for this item do they really think every senior is just drooling in anticipation over having the gentle whoosh, thump, whoosh of the air compressor lull them off to dreamland every night?

Why is it that Medicare and insurance companies will pay for someone’s rehospitalization and the sometimes required surgical intervention following the dislocation of a total hip replacement but won’t pay forty dollars for the elevated toilet seat that would have prevented the dislocation in the first place? [That’s a “luxury comfort item”.] If Medicare would pay for this item do they see a river of red ink as every senior rushes right out to have this glamorous item put on every commode in their home?

Why is it that Medicare and insurance companies will pay the tens of thousands of dollars required to fix a broken hip but not the twenty dollars for the grab bar in the shower that may have prevented the fall and fracture in the first place? By the way it is a well-known fact that a fractured hip is among the leading causes of the elderly losing their ability to remain living and functioning independently in their own homes often necessitating placement in a care facility that Medicare will pay tens of thousands of dollars for. Once Medicare funds are exhausted the person pays out of pocket until they are financially destitute at which point state funded Medicaid programs generally take over. Then it is our public funds to the tune of hundreds of thousands of dollars that foots the bill. Another well-documented fact is that life expectancy following a fractured hip is shortened; death frequently occurs within a year following the incident. Of course the cause of death is never the hip fracture but pneumonia or some other medical problem that was exacerbated by the inactivity following the broken hip. [Again the “luxury comfort item” category.] If Medicare were to pay for this item many seniors WOULD have them installed in their homes. The math hasn’t been done but wouldn’t it take an awful lot of grabs bars to equal the cost of paying for just ONE person’s hip fracture?

Why will Medicare pay hundreds of thousands of dollars treating a diabetic foot or leg ulcer often resulting in the ultimate amputation of a leg, then pay for the rehab, the prosthesis, rehabilitation services, equipment and pain management but won’t spend less than four thousand dollars on a home based ultraviolet light treatment device that has been proven to be efficacious in the healing of these ulcers? Once the ulcer is healed it has been clinically shown that the ulcer does NOT recur when treated with ultraviolet light. Diabetics with chronic ulcers will tell you that is NOT the case following conventional treatments.

Additionally this specialized ultraviolet treatment has been proven to actually reverse peripheral neuropathies in the legs and feet that are so common especially in folks with diabetes. These neuropathies can cause intractable pain and untold suffering often requiring very expensive drug management that Medicare does pay for. Another effect of peripheral neuropathies is numbness in the feet leading to the development of ulcers and pressure sores on the feet that don’t heal but Medicare and insurances pay for attempts at getting these often-chronic wounds to heal. The numbness can lead to loss of balance interfering with ambulation and subsequent falls resulting in hip fractures. Please refer to the above-mentioned effects of hip fractures and that completes this scenario.

Peripheral Neuropathies can also occur in the hands causing pain and/or numbness. This can make it difficult for sufferers to manage utensils when eating or writing, managing the fasteners of clothing items, managing doorknobs and faucets. Many sufferers are taking powerful pain medications and require assistance from family, friends or private caregivers to perform the simplest of daily tasks. Yet with the ultraviolet treatment and home unit that cost less than four thousand dollars the neuropathy can be reversed giving relief from pain and restoring functional use of the fingers and hands.

Having personally witnessed the effects of this treatment it is just not within my grasp of understanding to see why reimbursement for a home unit for these folks to be able to continue treatments on their own without the need for the cost of an outpatient treatment should be denied. A wound care clinic called me one day to find out just what treatment we were using on one of their patient’s heel ulcer. The patient had just come in for his weekly appointment and they had measured a 25% reduction in the size of the wound noting for the first time a viable wound bed of granulation tissue (that’s the good red tissue that is indication of improving blood supply and critical for healing to occur). Another patient walked into our clinic with tears of joy streaming down her face. She had just finished writing a letter to her daughter. You see she hadn’t been able to hold on to a pen in over 4 years. A gentleman was able sleep through the night for the first time in years without needing a narcotic for the foot pain. Another lady graduated from using a walker to a cane because for the first time in over 5 years she could feel her feet on the floor with the restored sensation from the reduction of the peripheral neuropathy.

If Medicare were to pay for this item thousands of folks could be spared untold pain and suffering, surgical procedures for wound cleaning and skin grafting could be reduced, many disfiguring amputations could be avoided, extensive rehab time and equipment expenses could be reduced. Quality of life could be vastly improved for many. Yes, it had become a popular treatment and for a time the costs were rising as more and more patients experienced lasting results from the treatments. If the treatments were working, why in the world did Medicare decide to discontinue paying for it? Patients and the manufacturers of the ultraviolet treatment even testified before Medicare with clinical studies showing the positive results being obtained using this cutting edge technology.

Why is it that Medicare and insurance companies will pay for the hospitalization of a patient for their chemo therapy treatments and will pay for the delivery of the treatment in a physician’s office, but will not pay for the drugs if they are delivered in the home setting by qualified personnel? The nursing visit and the intravenous equipment and supplies are paid for but not the very expensive chemotherapy drugs. The already immunocompromised patient must leave their home (often depending on a family member or friend taking time off work or school to provide transportation and then waiting two to three hours during the treatment), struggle to get to the doctor’s office for the treatment then struggle to get back home. If Medicare did pay for the chemotherapy drugs when used in the home setting what do they think would happen? Maybe they figure that it is more expensive to pay for it to be delivered in the home. It sure tugs at the heart to see a patient already weakened by rounds of radiation and chemotherapy struggling with the help of two family members to get into a wheelchair, get in to a car, then struggle to get out of the car and into the doctor’s office, get out of the wheelchair and into the treatment bed or lounge chair then have to reverse the whole laborious process 3 hours later.

Why it is that Medicare and insurance companies are demanding that patients be discharged to care facilities or their homes with such short hospital stays? The home health care field is treating patients in their homes that up until several years ago would have still been in an intensive care unit. Every hospital has on staff social workers whose sole responsibility is discharge planning. Their job is to coordinate the hospital discharges mandated by Medicare and the insurance companies with the physicians and patients to ensure that the patient has appropriate help at home, gets the appropriate medial equipment or assistive devices needed and has an appropriate home environment to go home to. Unfortunately, “appropriate” does not always mean “adequate and acceptable”. Too many emergency calls have been made to home care agency medical social workers by home care personnel requesting assistance with emergency placement for a patient who is not appropriate for home care services following hospital discharge.

Too often home care agency personnel have been sent out for a home care admission on a patient who has been sent home with no one to care for or assist them, with inadequate and unsafe housing or with no means of getting food or paying for prescribed medications.

Medicare regulations state that an agency may not admit a patient to home care whose needs exceed the care the agency is permitted by Medicare regulations to provide. That’s a good regulation to have. However, the hospital, rehab center or nursing home needed to discharge the patient because the Medicare reimbursement guidelines only allow so many hospital, rehab, or nursing home days. Yet the patient does not meet the Medicare reimbursement criteria for continued hospital, rehab or nursing home admission/placement. Huh?

Last November an article was published in this newsletter/social commentary about the Therapy Reimbursement Cap. That is still an issue before the legislature as it was only put on hold at the close of the 2006 session of Congress. It is still possible for a less than two thousand dollar limit to be placed on out patient therapy services.

Medicare is a costly system. It is not going to go away. Costs will continue to climb as more and more of us reach that magical age of 65. What are we to do? The rules and regulations are what they are and who can fight the federal government, right? WRONG!

We need to have a healthcare SYSTEM and not an “Industry”. What really needs to be done is to put the health care system back in the hands of the people who deliver the care and take it OUT of the hands of the pharmaceutical and insurance companies. It needs to be the physicians and healthcare provider professionals making the day to day CLINICAL decisions and not businessmen and women. The HMO Mandate needs to be repealed. You remember, the one that turned healthcare into a profit generating industry.

Each and every one of us can write to our Congressmen and Senators, those of us who are members of the American Association of Retired Persons (AARP) can join in taking action through the resources of that organization. Those of us who work in the health care field can work through our professional organizations. Most importantly we can take our voices to the voting booths and use our fingers to make our wishes known. There is no reason why every single one of us can’t take some kind of action. Come on, folks. Together the American people CAN band together to make our voices heard. Together we CAN form a united front that cannot and WILL not be ignored.

Can anyone explain why this is NOT possible?

May the Lord of Life provide you the light bright enough to see, the discernment accurate enough to recognize and identify and the courage large enough to let you stand up and speak out against injustice wherever it may be hiding and lurking.

Blessings,

Wendy Ford

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